Elon Musk somehow finds his way to being newsworthy one way or the other. Be it going ‘all in’ to support President Trump’s campaign recently, purchasing Twitter and renaming it as ‘X,’ doing the unthinkable with SpaceX, and revolutionising mobility with Tesla. He comes across as a suave, astute and farsighted individual who speaks brilliantly. So how is he an introvert? Are you one?
There are a lot of misconceptions regarding introverts and public speaking is often perceived as a daunting task for them. There is a general understanding that introverts primarily thrive in an environment that favours depth over breadth in communication. Introverts are naturally inclined toward reflective thinking and one-on-one interactions, making the spotlight of public speaking overwhelming.
No wonder hyperboles are tossed around, such as “They are so shy they would not be able to deliver a speech in public,” or “He is so happy to be confined to his room; he is shy, introverted, and does not like to mingle with people at all,” or “She is a nerd; she can neither be made the president of the debate club nor be given master of ceremony responsibilities.” These prejudicial overstatements do not hold water. After all, history has witnessed the greatest achievements from introverts, as well as some of the most successful business and political leaders.
I wish I knew this when I was growing up. The first time I spoke to a girl properly was when I was in class nine. Forget about public speaking. I was a hopeless introvert. Being among books, solving puzzles that newspapers provided, and drawing/sketching were what I enjoyed the most. Games that I played to engage myself were largely chess! Right up to my years in college, I used to be a quiet person who was afraid to speak up. I had resigned myself to my perception of an introvert being such even though deep inside I harboured the wish to be a fine public speaker one day.
Nobody told me during my younger years that it was okay to be an introvert. That they can master communication skills by leveraging their strengths – introspection, preparation, empathy and focus. My classmates and college friends were pleasantly surprised when they first heard and saw me in action. Their appreciation fuelled me further to improve as I started conducting training on ‘Speak without Fear’. Yet, my journey of transformation took a long time as I attempted to chisel out the square wheels, a chip at a time, and turn them into a circle.
If I had to go back in time and restart the process of shedding my inhibitions and accelerating my growth as a public speaker, I would first identify the challenges of public speaking I faced as an introvert. Let me share some of the reasons highlighting why public speaking was particularly difficult for me. They are not exhaustive, or some of you may not agree with them. Nevertheless, I would love to hear from you through email if you have a different reason or have observed a different trait in an introvert you have interacted with than below:
- Overthinking and self-criticism — Introverts tend to overanalyse situations, leading to pre-event stress and post-event self-criticism. They tend to replay scenarios in their mind, imagining every possible negative reaction from the audience, which heightens their anxiety and hampers their confidence.
- Physical manifestations of anxiety — Introverts sync their internal emotions, amplifying physical symptoms of stage fright, such as sweating, shaking, or a racing heartbeat. These symptoms can create physical anxiety and increased mental stress.
- Discomfort with being the centre of attention — Standing in front of an audience as the focal point can feel unnatural and intimidating, creating a sense of vulnerability that magnifies stage fright. Introverts generally prefer to observe rather than be observed.
- Fear of making mistakes — Introverts often set high standards for themselves and fear appearing unprepared or imperfect. This fear of failure can lead to avoidance of public speaking altogether.
- Preference for written over verbal expression — Many introverts are more comfortable expressing their thoughts in writing than speaking them aloud, as it leaves little time for the thoughtful reflection introverts value in communication.
- Discomfort with improvisation — Generally, excelling in structured and well-prepared scenarios, introverts struggle with spontaneous responses involving unexpected questions or interruptions, making them feel unprepared or anxious.
- Sensitivity to external feedback — Introverts are sensitive and often internalise feedback deeply, both positive and negative, making them more susceptible to perceived judgement or criticism from the audience.
- Pressure to be entertaining or charismatic — Modern audiences often expect speakers to be dynamic and entertaining, traits commonly associated with extroverts. This pressure to perform can feel unnatural for introverts, who may want to remain authentic to their quieter nature.
- Energy depletion from social interaction — Public speaking demands prolonged engagement, whereas introverts recharge through solitude and quiet reflection. This high-energy environment can leave introverts feeling drained.
By understanding and addressing these challenges, introverts can develop strategies to overcome their natural discomfort, leverage their unique strengths in meaningful ways, and thrive as communicators. If others can do it, so can you. There are famous introverts who excel in public speaking and communications, demonstrating that mastery in this area is achievable with the right strategies and dedication. Here are a few familiar names and their way of developing their communication skills.
Warren Buffet, as a young man, was terrified of public speaking. He enrolled in a Dale Carnegie public speaking course, where he practised extensively by preparing speeches and rehearsing in front of small audiences. Today, Buffett is celebrated for his clear and relatable communication style.
Lady Gaga, known for her flamboyant performances and boundary-pushing artistry, might not seem like an introvert at first glance. However, she has openly discussed her introverted tendencies and how they influence her life and career. Despite her larger-than-life persona, she balances her introversion by embracing authenticity and purpose, proving that introverts can excel in highly public roles without compromising their true selves.
President Barack Obama, an introvert by nature, is recorded to have admitted to feeling nervous before public appearances. However, he used his preparation and passion for the topics to convert this anxiety into energy. As such, his speech ‘Yes We Can’, among many others, combined measured delivery with authentic emotion, inspiring millions.
J.K. Rowling is known for her introversion and her initial struggles with public appearances. She found a way around her difficulties to approach speeches and interviews as if she was sharing personal stories with close friends. This approach can be seen during her Harvard commencement speech.
Bill Gates, an introverted personality, was initially shy and unpolished in public speaking. Over the years, he worked on improving his delivery through coaching and practice. Recent TED Talks reflect his confidence, clarity and passion for innovation and philanthropy.
Emma Watson, the Hermione Granger in the Harry Potter series, is a self-identified introvert who has transformed her quiet, introspective nature into a powerful asset for advocacy and public speaking. Despite her natural shyness, Watson has delivered impactful speeches on global platforms, such as her iconic address at the United Nations for the HeForShe campaign. Her ability to communicate passionately stems from her thoughtful preparation and genuine connection to the cause.
I am still a work in progress. I have taken inspiration from successful leaders who were and are introverts to help in my journey to become a better communicator. I have resonated with the examples above whereby my improvements have come with deliberate practice, focus on structured content and preparations, peer learning with fellow Toastmasters, openness to critical feedback by mentors, and using the friendly approach and storytelling to be more comfortable speaking. It has worked wonders for me.
As an introvert, I can vouch that there are obstacles that may look insurmountable in the beginning, but they can be opportunities to grow. What is required is a dose of will, a bit of patience, sprinkled with grit, and small efforts put in consistently to build confidence gradually. Over a short period of time, tangible results can be seen. It is doable. I have done it, so can you. Let us prove the idea that introverts are inherently poor communicators is a myth.
Elon Musk was initially criticised for his awkward public speaking style. Over time, he sought constructive feedback and applied it to improving his delivery, focusing on making his presentations engaging and understandable. Today, Musk’s passion for technology and innovation captivates audiences, even though his introverted nature is still evident.
(Shakya is an entrepreneur, certified trainer, and small business consultant. He can be reached for an executive mentoring session at suman@tangentwaves.com)
